Ever been having the perfect day when BAM — out of nowhere, a memory sneaks up, grabs you by the throat, and shakes you like a maraca at a beachside bar? Yep, we've all been there.
Worse yet? When it's not just a memory, but an actual person from your past who shows up with their old expectations in tow. They want you to fall back into familiar patterns — to cater to their desires, to say "yes" when your healed self knows you should say "no." And oh honey, at first, you almost did. It threw you for a loop — you stumbled, stuttered, and started falling back into old patterns like you were dancing a tired routine you swore you'd retired.
But then — snap snap — you picked yourself up, shook yourself off like a lunch napkin that hit the floor, and traded that raggedy napkin in for a fresh one. Because this time? You knew better.
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So, darling, how do you keep your cool when your past comes calling? Spicy Josie's dropping the 411 on how she handles it without losing her lunch:
1. Ground Yourself Like a Perfect Espresso Shot When your mind starts spinning faster than a blender on margarita night, STOP. Feel your feet on the ground, wiggle your toes, and breathe like you’re sipping a piping hot cup o’ espresso. The present moment is your anchor, honey — hold on tight.
2. Sweet Talk Your Inner Critic You know that voice? The one that says, "You should've known better" or "Why didn’t you say this instead?" Tell that voice, "Thanks, babe, but I'm not taking suggestions right now." You’re the boss of your own thoughts. Period.
3. Chill Like a Cucumber in Sangria Try self-soothing tricks that actually work. Wrap yourself in a cozy blanket, take a walk by the waves, or rub some lavender oil on your wrists. These tiny rituals are like hitting the reset button on your soul.
4. Serve Yourself Some Wisdom — and Seconds if Needed Sometimes the past pops up to remind us of what we've learned. So instead of spiraling, ask yourself: "What did I gain from that experience?" (Besides, darling, your fabulous resilience deserves a toast.)
5. Call in the Calvary Don't go it alone. Reach out to your ride-or-die, that friend who knows when to pour the wine and when to pass the chocolate. Connection is the ultimate comfort food.
6. Give Yourself Permission to Feel No shame in crying into your pasta, darling. Just don't unpack and live there. Let the emotions flow like marinara sauce — messy, rich, and totally worth it. Then get back to your spicy, sassy self.
7. Practice the "Pause and Ponder" Trick When someone from your past corners you with their same old tricks, resist the urge to jump into action. Instead, say, "Let me think about that," and give yourself space to decide what you really want. That pause? Pure power, darling.
8. Set Boundaries Like a Michelin-Star Chef Plates a Dish — With Precision and Style Don't let anyone pile guilt on your plate like a bad buffet. Be clear, firm, and polite. "No thanks," or "That's not for me," is all the seasoning you need. No over-explaining required.
The past may show up uninvited, but you're still the host of your own fabulous life. Chin up, lipstick on, and fork in hand — because nothing tastes better than inner peace served with a side of sass, Sunshine.
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And… that’s all I’ve got to say about that.
That’s all she wrote… for now.
With love, spice, and a sprinkle of gypsy magic, Josie 💋
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